Class Blog

2007-12-04T09:04:00.000-08:00

Alas! My final blog for class, at last I'm finished!

I just wanted to say that I did enjoy researching and posting these "Sexology 101" blogs and I hope that you've learned from them as much as I did.

But all in all, what I've learned is that arrogance and sex do not go hand-in-hand. So let's not get cocky (pardon the pun) because when we get cocky we forget the real reason for sex - it's not a race, it's not a competition, it's not an obsession, it's not ego booster, and it's meant for you and your special somebody. Trust me, if you keep in it in that light, your sex life will improve.

Don't be selfish in the bedroom, think of your special somebody first, it's never too late or too old to woo somebody into the the bedroom even if it's the 100th time with the same person, and learn about yourself and your partner, read books, go to the self-help sex section and if anybody gives you the evil eye return them the evil finger, it's for YOU and your special somebody everybody else can just kiss your ass.

And sex IS and important part to a meaningful relationship nobody how old or inexperienced you are so make the best of it.

Again, I hope you've learned as much as I have from these blogs and remember, sex is for you and that special somebody. That's that.

Sincerely yours,

Gould

Sexology 101 - Andropause (What the heck is this?)

2007-12-04T08:47:00.000-08:00

Andropause is also known as the "mid-life" crisis in men. As for women it's called menopause and there is plenty of information on the internet about menopause.

Males between the age of 45-55 go through this stage of "I'm over the hill" "I'm losing it" "I can't hack it anymore." and retaliate by buying expensive cars, screwing a young Blondie, or dying their hair . . . at least that's how I see it.

But what actually happens? Is it mental or biological?

The truth is, it's actually biological. Men between the age of 45-55 will begin to make less and less of Androgen, a male hormone. This is can determined by simple blood test.

Also, not every guy goes through this, the actual percentage is in the ballpark of 30%-40% of males.

This as an effect on men's relationships with their partners. They don't understand their bodies and don't understand their emotions, thus neither do their partners. This leads to frustrations and encourages the male to go out and seek his own contentment whatever it may be.

Some suggestions are:

Share your experiences with your family and close friends.

Talk to your doctor, ask for a simple blood test called a bioavailable testosterone level. If indicated, start on testosterone replacement therapy. This could be a body cream, gel, patch, pill or injection.

Exercise regularly, foot to ground exercise such as walking, running.

Reduce alcohol intake and stop smoking.Eat healthy, reduce fats and sugars.

If overweight, lose weight gradually through diet and exercise.

Reduce your stress levels.

So, old lads! Don't you worry, it's normal. . . Just talk with a doctor before you buy an expensive sports car or try to pick up a young Blondie!

*** Information gathered from http://www.talksexwithsue.com/andropause.html

Sexology 101 - The number of partners make you a better lover?

2007-12-04T08:24:00.001-08:00

This is something that guys usually bring up, "I fucked 18 girls in the last 2 years!" They use women as a conquest, trophies, another notch in the belt. But if these guys told every woman they were about to score that she's just to serve as an ego booster in front of their friends and her name will be replaced by a number, I highly doubt that she will still consent to sex, who would?

So let's bring it out in the open, does a higher number signify a better lover? Will it increase you from a 6 to 7 on the love-making scale?

Want to know what I think? I think it's bogus! I know a guy who is only 20 years old and had sex with 19 women. Also, I know another guy who is 23 but has only had sex with 3 women. Guess who literally got the most action? Man # 2.

The first guy just had sex with each woman once or twice and if he got really lucky, he had sex with them 3 times. But for the sake of argument I'll round this up to 5 times each woman X 19 women = 95 times. Remember, I'm going way over for man # 1. But the most he could of had sex is 95 times.

Meanwhile guy # 2 was in 3 long-term relationships. His first partner was a high school sweetheart. They had sex regularly for 2 years. His next partner was an old college flame who he was with for 2 years and had sex regularly during those 2 years. And now he is engaged to be married to a woman he has been with for the last 3 years and has had sex regularly with her. There is no way I can even begin to count but let's suppose he had sex twice a month, that totals to over 180 times. THAT IS TWICE AS MUCH AS GUY # 1!

So do the number of women we score necessarily signify us as better lovers? I don't think so.

Sexology 101 - Is it a marathon to reach your sexual peak? Who is lucky, men or women?

2007-12-02T20:01:00.000-08:00

Is it a marathon? Is the one who gets theirs first the lucky one? Well , that's debatable. . . but biologically men get theirs around the age of 18 meanwhile women get theirs around the age of 28. Which is better?

Let's take a look at this, where are men at age 18? Usually they're in high school, college, or living at home partying on days that end with "Y". Any one of them call for a chance to be around women, and are prone to situations where they'll be able to snag a lady here and there. So for men, the age benefit is where they are in life, in a social climate where access should be made easier.

Now for women, being at the age of 18 you are surrounded by sex-starved men who think with two heads, one on the shoulders and the other in his pants... at times it could be fun, but then again, I can imagine it'd be a pain in the ass to shake men off their tail every weekend. But look at it this way, at age 18, men should hypothetically be in heat 24/7, after all they are peaking, right? So when a woman wants sex, all she has to do go find a peaking young man and that's that. She can get hers whenever she wants, even though it may not be her peak.

But then again, when she turns 28, her male counterparts have tamed from their carnal urges and she may have to fend for herself from time to time. I can imagine that this would suck especially after being spoiled to the stand-by shag men of their younger days. Which is better?

Then again for men at the age of 18, they'll too be frustrated in their quest to get some tail because women aren't on the same page as they are.

But when women do get their share of men, at age 28, hopefully the lucky guy will be a little more experienced and knows how to tango better than the rookie who's locked up in the bathroom with a copy of Penthouse and thinks cumming is a race.

However, at age 18, as men gain experience they can mold the inexperienced to their liking if the relationship blossoms.

Hmm... which is better? Really, it's up to you, as for me, I'm just happy I've got a peak!

Sexology 101 - Sex Around the World!

2007-12-02T17:59:00.000-08:00

As I was doing research for this blog assignment I came across an interesting article that compares the sexual performance of different countries from all around the world... take a gander at how these countries do.

"Every day 120 million acts of sexual intercourse take place around the world - resulting in 910,000 conceptions. On average, it lasts 21 minutes in the UK, compared with 17 in Germany, 14 in Italy and 10 in Thailand (where they do it quickest). The Brazilians, who average 30 minutes, are the world's sexual gold medallists (although 44 per cent of Brazilian women confess faking orgasms). "

"The revelations can be unflattering: 46 per cent of American women think a good night's sleep is better than sex. They can be disturbing: 23 per cent of Germans are sexually stimulated by underarm odour. And they can be upsetting: in Egypt, 80 per cent of women suffer female genital excision,although it is banned by law."

"Other stereotypes are dramatically confirmed. Gallic pride is unchallenged, with the French having the most sex of anyone in Europe, doing it more than 130 times a year. Apart from the Irish, women from Finland, Denmark and Iceland are the most sexually advanced in Europe: on average, they lose their virginity at 16, and by the age of 18 around three-quarters of them are having sex. "

"Britain has more teenage abortions than any other county in Western Europe, with 20 per 1,000 women aged 15 to 19 having abortions every year, compared with two per thousand in Germany. In many other countries, the figure is far higher, with 45 per 1,000 teenage girls in Bulgaria having abortions every year. "

"Sex has also become one of the world's largest industries. In Thailand, the sex industry is worth $25 billion a year, employing 200,000 child prostitutes. But that total is dwarfed by the US, with 300,000 child prostitutes, and Brazil, with 600,000."

"Brazilians make love for longer than anyone else (a worldbeating 30 mins). More partners in the last year than anyone else on the planet, and consequently more tolerant of infidelity than anywhere else in the world."

"British have the world's highest number of unmarried teenage pregnancies. Average life includes sex 2,580 times with five partners. More stamina (21 mins), and more women under 20 who have extra marital sex, than rest of Europe."

"Thais lose their virginity very late (over 20 for women) quickest lovers in the world (10 mins). Less than 10 per cent of women under 20 have sex outside marriage while 90 per cent of Thai men have sex before marriage. Highest rate of condom usage in the world."

"Americans are into cyber sex - biggest users of online pornography. Americans ask for dates via email as much as face to face. Only country where the average age for virginity is rising. Longest sex sessions in the developed world (28 mins) and also the most sex in the developed world at over 130 times a year. "

"Italians are shy sexual pandas who lose their virginity later than anyone else in Europe (19 for men, 20 for women), have less sex than anyone in Europe (less than 100 times a year), and have quickest sex in Europe (14 mins)."

And that's the sex recap for you around from around the world!

**all information gathered from, http://observer.guardian.co.uk/uk_news/story/0,,333550,00.html#article_continue

Sexology 101 - Sex & Age

2007-12-02T16:44:00.000-08:00

Yeah, I know, nobody wants to talk about the picture . . .

Come on, wouldn't it be terrifying to think that once your hair grays and your boobs sag that sex is out the window for you! But all in all, there isn't much research on older people and sex, and because of that, older people (eventually us in a few years) will have to suffer because of it. If you ever think about it, we have Sex Education as pre-teens to better prepare us for our bodily changes that we incur as adolescences - because of that we understand our body, become less embarrassed about it, and more open to discuss it, and eventually learn more about ourselves. Now when we get pass the over-the-hill stages, our bodies begin to change again, but this time there's no Sex Education for older people and when these changes occur, they become embarassed, unsure of themselves, and as a result they don't talk about the changes that happen and just leave it in the closet. Because of this, many doctors just assume that older people don't have sex so they oftentimes give them medication without thinking twice about it affecting their sex drive, nor do they warn older people about it having an impact on their sex drive. So when older people start to mention sex, don't be so quick to "EWW" it out of converstation, let them talk, how else are they going to learn? Don't you want to keep having sex well into your 60s, 70s, and 80s?

Sexology 101 - We've talked about the penis, what about the vagina?

2007-12-02T12:24:00.000-08:00

What about the vagina? To be honest I have no idea about the depth or length (I don't even know the proper term to use) of a woman's vagina. I am somewhat baffled by the vagina because it is capable of bearing 10 pound babies yet at time it hurts with penile penetration. How does this work? I'm sure none of you can answer this question either. But according to my internet findings I've found that the vagina is one of the most elastic areas of the female body and in certain times it calls for certain abilities.

Without sexual arousal the cervix (the "ceiling" of the vagina) to the outer part of the vagina is 3-4 inches. When sexual arousal occurs it creates a blood flow to the vaginal walls and stretches 2/3rds of the vagina thus ascending the cervix. And remember, the vagina lubricates to help with penetration.

If the man still hits the cervix with his penis, it is usually an indication that the woman is not aroused psychologically or physically and a break is needed to pertain more focus on the woman. Yet, if it still hits the cervix this can be very uncomfortable for women and she needs to communicate with her partner.

Furthermore, the height and weight of a females body does not contribute to the length of their vagina canals. There is no complete average and ultimately it varies from woman to woman without pattern.

Again, a point for the little man minus 1 for Mr. Big Penis.

*** all info from http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/2067.html

Sexology 101 - Goddamn Blueballs!

2007-12-02T11:33:00.000-08:00

Yes! Yes! One of the most hated experiences of being born with a set of balls... The experience of blue balls!

Blue balls are what guys get when they get all roused up but don't ejaculate. (notice I didn't use the phrase, "fail to ejaculate") Ususally we get this when we're first starting out in a relationship and kissing and necking is as far as you've gone. Some dudes go brag by saying, "I've never had blue balls, I've always made a score when I got roused up by a girl!" These guys are either male-hos or the pushy kind that only get theirs and leave their girl out to dry (pardon the pun).

So what is the biological reason behind the infamous blue balls?

"When a man becomes sexually excited, the arteries carrying blood to the genital area enlarge, while the veins carrying blood from the genital area are more constricted than in the non-aroused state.

This uneven blood flow causes an increase in volume of blood trapped in the genitals and contributes to the penis becoming erect and the testicles becoming engorged with blood. During this process of vasocongestion the testicles increase in size 25-50 percent.

If the male reaches orgasm and ejaculates, the arteries and veins return to their normal size, the volume of blood in the genitals is reduced and the penis and testicles return to their usual size rather quickly.

If ejaculation does not occur there may be a lingering sensation of heaviness, aching, or discomfort in the testicles due to the continued vasocongestion. This unpleasant feeling has popularly been called blue balls, perhaps because of the bluish tint that appears when blood engorges the vessels in the testicles."

And it sucks!

*** Information recieved from http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/sexpedia/blueballs.html

Sexology 101 - The Myth of Jelqing

2007-12-02T11:09:00.000-08:00

This is for those of you who have complete disregard for my previous blog... If you still lack confidence in the length and girth of your member, then you may go on your own myth-buster quest to determine if the jelqing theory is myth or fact.

What is jelqing you ask? Jelqing is a technique you may use to supposedly enlarge your penis.

How does one jelq the fuck out of their penis? Here are the steps:

1. Take a towel, soak it with hot water, (not hot enough to burn your penis.) Wrap it around your penis and hold it for 5 minutes, this relaxes and allows more blood flow to your penis.

2. Apply lubrication or Vaseline and massage your penis to ¾ of an erection. Then, making an OK sign with your index and thumb, firmly grip your penis at the base, and slide your hand down to the head of your penis. This is one jelq. Continue this by alternating your hand, "milking the penis" downward. The head of your penis will fill up with blood and tingle.

3. Most Websites say to continue for ½ hour but you may do it for up to an hour. When you are finished, wrap your penis in a hot towel again for 5 minutes. Repeat this process every day or at least 5 times a week.

4. They say you will begin to notice a difference in about a month. The Website warns against jelqing if you have a full erection - you could rupture a blood vessel.

To my little readers, and yes, I mean you little ones... Let me know how this goes.

**Information recieved from http://talksexwithsue.com/jelqing.html

Sexology 101 - Does size matter?

2007-11-25T18:24:00.000-08:00

Everybody is always asking, "Does penis size matter?" I'm here to answer it . . . NO!

Men will always be insecure of their size regardless if they are a walking tripod of a man. I’ve heard of women telling their partners, “Baby, don’t worry, size doesn’t matter; it’s how you use it that counts.” And in my opinion, it's true... It's the power of the tongue!

According to my internet findings, the average penis size falls within the realm of 5.1 to 5.7 inches in length and the average circumference is 3.5 to 3.9 inches. Where are these Mr.-10-inches-between-my-leg-fellas? I've heard of women saying that TOO big is TOO much.. and not in a good way.

This whole size thing is something that men bring upon themselves, but only women can decide the real worth of a man's penis.

A Dr. Ian Kerner, a clinical sexologist and author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman., “Making love with one's penis is like trying to write calligraphy with a thick Magic Marker” It takes much more than just a big ol’ penis to make racket in the bedroom, and technically, Dr. Kerner says you don’t need a penis at all, “The tongue is proven mightier than the sword”.

Alas!

Small penis people! Feel confident! Behold the power of our tongue!

Sexology 101 - Strange Sex Laws

2007-11-25T18:13:00.000-08:00

Here are some strange sex laws that I found on the internet. Thought you guys might get a kick out of them.

In Tibet, many years ago, the law required all women prostitute themselves. This was seen as a way to gain sexual experience prior to marriage. .

The T'ang Dynasty Empress Wu Hu passed a special law concerning oral sex. She felt that a woman pleasuring a man represented the supremacy of the male over the female. Therefore, she insisted all visiting male dignitaries show their respect by pleasuring her orally when meeting. The empress would throw open her robe and her guest would kneel before her and kiss her genitals.

In Pompeii, a special law was directed at prostitutes. They had to dye their hair either blue, red or yellow in order to be able to work.

Up until 1884, a woman could be sent to prison for denying a husband sex.

There are men in Guam whose full-time job it is to travel the countryside and deflower young virgins, who pay them for the privilege of having sex for the first time. Why? Under the law in Guam, it is forbidden for virgins to marry.

An 18th century French prostitute could be spared punishment if she were willing to join the opera.

In Oxford, Ohio, it's illegal for a woman to strip off her clothing while standing in front of a man's picture.

The only acceptable sexual position in Washington, D.C. is the missionary position. Any other sexual position is considered illegal.

In Michigan a woman isn't allowed to cut her own hair without her husband's permission.

Under Lebanese law, men are legally allowed to have sex with animals, but the animals must be female. Having sexual relations with a male animal is expressly forbidden.

In the state of Texas it is a misdemeanor if two men engage in oral and or anal sex. The same law doesn't apply to men and women engaging in the same activity with each other.

In the state of Utah, sex with an animal—unless performed for profit—is not considered sodomy and therefore is legal.

In the state of Washington there is a law against having sex with a virgin under any circumstances (including the wedding night).

Sodomy laws have been repealed—or are ignored—in most states, but not Georgia, where a man was sentenced to five years in prison for engaging in oral sex. With his wife. With her consent. In their home.

An Oklahoma state representative once proposed a bill requiring that a man explain the dangers of pregnancy and obtain a woman's written consent before the two could legally engage in sexual intercourse.

In hotels in Sioux Falls, South Dakota, every room is required to have twin beds. The beds must always be a minimum of two feet apart when a couple rents a room for only one night. And it's illegal to make love on the floor between the beds.

The owner of every hotel in Hastings, Nebraska, is required to provide each guest with a clean and pressed nightshirt. No couple, even if they are married, may sleep together in the nude, nor may they have sex unless they are wearing one of these clean, white cotton nightshirts.

A law in Helena, Montana, mandates that a woman can't dance on a table in a saloon or bar unless she has on at least three pounds, two ounces of clothing.

***Information taken from http://www.dribbleglass.com/subpages/strange/sexlaws.htm

Sexology 101 - What the hell is the Grafenberg spot?

2007-11-25T17:28:00.000-08:00

Fellas, in case you didn’t know, the Grafenberg spot is also known as the “G-Spot”. No, no, no. . . . It’s not a myth; a Dr. Ernest Grafenberg found it back in the 1950s. And no, the G-Spot is not the same thing as the clitoris! According to Alice from http://www.goaskalice.com/, “The G-spot has been identified as a sensitive area right behind the front wall of the vagina, between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix. (A man's "G-spot" is his prostate.) When this spot is stimulated during touching or sex, some women's orgasms are accompanied by "ejaculate" from the urethra. Ernst Grafenberg, who first wrote about female ejaculatory fluid in 1950, stated that fluid expelled by women during orgasm was not urine, as was the common belief, but, instead, secretions which are similar to a man's ejaculate minus sperm.”

So yes, it sucks to be us, it’s hard enough to find the clitoris but we also need to find the G-Spot which has been built within the whole overly complicated vagina! Nonetheless, with open communication and lots of practice you should be able to locate the clitoris and the G-Spot.

Now I’m sure you’re wondering if solve the mystery of the G-Spot will women be “squirting” at your very presence? The answer is no. Every woman orgasms differently but to be honest, squirting would be the biggest and probably the coolest tell. But you’ll have to trust your old lady if she says she had an orgasm or not.

And if you just can’t get the whole G-Spot thing down don’t think she’ll orgasm anyway… NO. The G-Spot and the orgasm go together like cookies and milk, together they just make a woman go, “MmM . . . Ahh.”

Sexology 101 - Sex & Money

2007-11-20T12:26:00.001-08:00

A few days ago I was doing research for a class project and came across the most interesting article and I think it's suitable for my weekly blogs. The article talks about a research project conducted by two college professors who were curious to see which factor made people more happy - sex or money. Naturally, at least for me, sex came out on top.

The article stated, “Increasing intercourse from once a month to once a week is equivalent to the amount of happiness generated by getting an additional $50,000 in income for the average American.” (Kirchheimer, WebMD Medical News) Do you think this could be true? Extra action between the sheets feels like getting an extra $50,000 dollars a year? The article also pointed out, “In fact, the economists calculate that a lasting marriage equates to happiness generated by getting an extra $100,000 each year. Divorce, meanwhile, translates to a happiness depletion of $66,000 annually.” (Kirchheimer, WebMD Medical News) Furthermore, the article confirms that those who are depressed often have less sex.

What do you think? In my opinion, sex is a form of intimacy and intimacy is a necessity to being happy, and intimacy can’t be bought. So yeah, I think the article is right; sex does produce more happiness than money ever could.

So according to the article and research findings, sex does play a big role in our happiness, more than money. So for those of you who run into financial difficulty from time to time, don’t worry, just make a racket in the bedroom and at least it’ll feel like you’ve made an extra $50,000!

***Article used for this blog can be found at http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/20061101/sex-better-than-money-for-happiness

Sexology 101: Random Facts

2007-11-19T18:33:00.000-08:00

For today’s article, I’ve decided to give you guys random quotes pertaining to sexology 101. Enjoy!

The average person spends 2 weeks of its life kissing.

The Ramses brand condom is named after the great phaoroh Ramses II who fathered over 160 children.

A man’s beard grows fastest when he anticipates sex

A pig’s orgasm lasts for 30 minutes.

Women who read romance novels have sex twice as often as those who don’t.

Males, on average, think about sex every 7 seconds.

The greatest recorded number of children one mother had was 69 children.

The world’s youngest parents were 8 and 9 and lived in China in 1910.

The first couple to be shown in bed together on prime time television was: Fred and Wilma Flintstone.

25% of women think money makes a man sexier.

Sex is biochemically no different from eating large quantities of chocolate.

For every ‘normal’ webpage, there are five porn pages.

The penalty for masturbation in Indonesia is decapitation.

Turkeys can reproduce without having sex. It’s called parthenogenesis.

Each day, there are over 120 million sexual intercourse taking place all over the world.

Topless saleswomen are legal in Liverpool, England - but only in tropical fish stores.

There are men in Guam whose job is to travel the countryside and deflower young virgins, who pay them for the privilege of having sex for the 1st time.

Sex burns 360 calories per hour!

Male and female rats may have sex twenty times a day.

22% of American women aged 20 gave birth while in their teens. In Switzerland and
Japan, only 2% did so.

In India it is cheaper to have sex with a prostitute than buy a condom!

“Formicophilia” is the fetish for having small insects crawl on your genitals.

“Ithyphallophobia” is a morbid fear of seeing, thinking about or having an erect penis.

Sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. It is 10 times more effective than valium!

Male bats have the highest rate of homosexuality of any mammal.

Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure.

In Hong Kong, a betrayed wife is legally allowed to kill her adulterous husband, but may only do so with her bare hands.

85% of men who die of heart attacks during intercourse, are found to have been cheating on their wives.

***All facts were retained from http://ioframe.com/en/interesting_facts_about_sex

Sexology 101 - HPV

2007-10-21T17:57:00.000-07:00

Are you sexually active? Then there's a chance that you may come into contact with the infamous sexually transmitted disease, Human Papillomavirus (HPV).

According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention website, http://www.cdc.gov/, "20 million people are infected with HPV. At least 50 percent of sexually active men and women acquire genital HPV infection at some point in their lives. By age 50, at least 80 percent of women will have acquired genital HPV infection."

The reason for so many people being infected with HPV is because it has little or no symptoms or occasionally the infection will clear on its own.

HPV is a medically incurable virus that lives in the skin or mucous membrane, thus has minimal symptoms. However, if the symptoms are not caught, the virus may lead to warts or pre-cancerous changes in the female cervix, penis, or anus. If caught early on, pre-cancerous symptoms can be treated to ensure that it does not develop into cancer. Warts can be medically treated.

For women, the most common way to detect HPV is at your regular Pap test. For men, there is no test. Usually men do not realize the possibility of having HPV until their partner has HPV or physical symptoms begin to appear on the penis area.

Women are at greater risk of HPV than men. HPV is the most common reason why women are diagnosed with cervical cancer and men with penile cancer. In 2004, an estimated 10,520 women were diagnosed with cervical cancer and 3,900 of them will die from the disease. Meanwhile, only an estimated 1,530 men were diagnosed with penile cancer in 2006.

Most women who have cervical cancer from HPV have not had a Pap test in years. Thus, allowing the cancer to grow beyond curable means. HPV may go undetected in a Pap test for years, so it’s important for women to have regular Pap test.

There is no medical cure for HPV. However, women who aren’t sexually active between the ages of 9-26 may receive a vaccine shot to prevent HPV by 100%.

** Information on HPV was gathered from the Center for Disease Control and Prevention website, http://www.cdc.gov/.